Supporting the Supporter: Military spouses have long been the unsung heroes, often putting their personal and professional lives on the back burner to support their uniformed partners’ career and service to our nation. Even after their service members’ time in uniform comes to an end, their sacrifice sometimes is only the beginning.
With some service members carrying the burden of hidden wounds from service, those supporters take on yet another unseen role — that of a caretaker.
Nationally, it’s believed that at least 60% of caretakers experience moderate to high stress levels. Among those surveyed, upwards of 70% of caretakers begin to show clinical symptoms of depression, with many recounting feelings of not only physical but also emotional exhaustion.
Between balancing work and duties at home, including caregiving, there is not much time left for these supporters to take care of themselves.
Rest: With high stress levels and many long, thankless hours, you can’t be fully effective to anyone if you’re leaving yourself on empty.
Recharge: Find time to engage in activities that make you happy. There’s a reason that in case of an emergency, airlines ask you to put your oxygen mask on before assisting others. You must be working in full capacity for yourself to be able to help carry the load for others.
Rely: Don’t try to do it alone; there are so many clichés about the need for a village, but one person cannot carry the load alone. Just as those who are seeking treatment for their hidden battle wounds are told, asking for help is a sign of strength — not weakness.
Military spouses and caregivers carry an incredible weight, but they don’t have to do it alone. By prioritizing rest, making time to recharge, and relying on supportive networks, these unsung heroes can sustain themselves while continuing their vital role.
To every supporter out there: your strength, sacrifice, and love do not go unnoticed. And just as you show up for others, there are resources and communities ready to show up for you.